Does Seduction Make You Happy?

I’m reading this article in Time magazine (“Special Mind & Body Issue“) titled, “The New Science of Happiness.” Some points stood out that I think have a direct application to seduction, and now I’m trying to figure out how best to present it.

First Principle

“There is a lack of correlation between the experiencing self and the remembering self.”

It is interesting that there is conflicting data, or a lack of correlation between what people say generally has brought them happiness, and descriptions of which specific activities bring them happiness.

The striking example being that most women will tell you that their children are their main source of happiness. However, when a study of more specific details of a woman’s activities shows that taking care of their children ranks low as a positive or happiness inducing experience.

In fact the number 1 positive activity for a woman was found to be S-E-X.

I am going to speculate here that some of this discrepancy comes from how we separate things – and remember things differently – when viewed from either a logical or emotional perspective.

This strikes me as having high significance for pick-up and seduction. You may think that this is just another way of stating something that we already know – logic kills attraction and emotion creates attraction – but I think this information serves two purposes.

Firstly, it provides a deeper understanding of why certain things work and this is always a good thing. Secondly, it conveys to me that it may also be important to have a way of logically linking her positive experiences with you. Such that when she thinks from her logical mind, or tells her friends about you in a logical conversation, that she will rate the experiences as enjoyable and highly as if she were still in the emotional experience with you.

Ross Jeffries has several great processes for doing things likes this. One such method is getting a girl to ratify her experience with you on a scale of 1 to 10. I can see other NLP future pacing and suggestive comments or patterns also working to place her logical thought of you as strongly as her in the moment emotional experience.

On a closing comment a lack of understanding of this principle may be partly responsible for getting flakes even when you ran decent game. After the experience was over there was no logical thread to maintain the strength of the experience in her mind. Or perhaps there was no mechanism for eliciting the emotional state that she experienced with you.

As you come up with your own thoughts on this remember to think also in terms of the whole seduction process and not just the meet and attract phase.

Second Principle

“What you remember of an experience is particularly influenced by the emotional high and low points and by how it ends.”

How can this help us in a pick-up or seduction?

It is important to fluctuate a woman’s mood or emotional state between both high and low points. Staying purely in a high state loses its effect as there is nothing to contrast against. I’m sure many of us already know this.

More importantly for me is the last part of the principle. What a person remembers of an experience is particularly influenced by how that experience ends. This is something that I have thought about before, but only because I noticed that I often end an interaction poorly, and I’m sure that has an impact on my flake rate. However, I have never made an effort to specifically work on the ending of an interaction.

Today for instance I had a great time talking with an HB8.5 and we made plans to see each other tomorrow… but I let the energy wind down, and kind of just walked off without a strong ending.

You could consider this ending importance to be comparable to bridge technology. I think bridge technology is actually just part of the psychology of ending most effectively. Bridging to meeting again for a specific purpose is far more effective than just planning on a phone call or leaving you’re next interaction vague. Bridging with her buy-in and your mutual excitement and enthusiasm is even better. Ending should even include such things as; the nuances of the way you say goodbye, of your ending kino, of the look you give her, of your ending interactions with any others people who are also around, of your ending body language, of the way you walk away.

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