Well thought I'd write and update pm what happened this saturday for anyone interested. I took Skynets advice when I walked into the party and immediatly approached and started conversations with the group I saw first. But at first it wasn't going well. So I decided to take the advice of what I read in Mystery's book so far and took control of the scene. The cute girl there who was my target (and everyone else's) was involved in a drinking card game and I knew that everyone there, including the poor guy leaning all over her next to her, was trying to game her.
I'm not gonna go through all the ridiculous details but I sat in at the game and took over, playing the alpha of the group. It worked amazingly. Eventually all bodies were faced towards me, all guys who weren't threatened by me, stuck around while the others left. Basically to do this, all I did was speak strong, have a very "I'm here" type of personality, and slight but polite AMOGing of the guys trying to boss me around. As far as the target, I became the leader of the group and the advice everyone says worked flawlessly. I would be lying if I said she was all over me but she was definatly fighting for my attention as was her friend. I didn't outright Neg her either, I did it more suttle by only really kind of looking her direction when she talked, giving her one or two word answers while talking alot to her friends.
flash forward later on and she's pulling me aside, asking me to take shots with her. and giving me individual attention, I didn't even have to try and pull her aside, she pulled me aside.
The bad news is I didn't really know how to escalate this from her starting to be confortable with me. It was just do to lack of knowledge, but I think I played the game up to the point I know very well. I could have closed her had I known how to progress it correctly. Also I tried my opinion opener, though I didn't quite use it as an opener and the results were pretty good, though I still need to use it more before I say it's a good one or not.
So here's in a very quick nutshell what I did to neg and then win to the point I did.
1) Immediatly negged her on her first words to me. She found out I do magic and she said Show me the levitaion trick. I said "wow, your demanding, and went back to the game.. I had shown her after as a reward for good behavior.. hehehe
2) Immediatly became the "everybody guy" in the house
3) When people started looking to me for leadership, I lead
4) as I started to speak to her more, I was giving her the idea She was winning me over, not the other way around.
Finally towards the end of the night, I kind of backed off a bit not really knowing what to do. Then the other Alpha Male came in and started to take the crowd, and there was a silent and polite but probably obvious fight for control. This guy was good, but I one, only by acting like he was still under me. So I definatly learned a lot from this one night, though not a successful night to most people, I feel a couple steps ahead from what I was before.. so I'll take it.
Also, I developed a new rapport building, fun magic trick that I made up on the spot last night that worked great. I used in with this girl (HB 7.5 by the way) and in gave definatly gave her a feeling of having the "in" as opposed to everyone else. If you don't want to use ith with the girl though, it's also a cool game you can play with your wing to show to sets you approach. I'll post this in the techniques section.
