Newbie Mission Journal

[Handsome Dan]

ASD, I read one of your posts on page 19 about how you were trying to incorporate playful banter into your first few sentences of every set...of course it was posted september 1st, so Im sure you have a comfortable grasp now.

So...is playful banter just negging with kino? I'm confused...

[sketch]

Man, very good FRs. Mad respect.

Oh, my dick moved a little reading HBDV's post, had to tell you guys that.

[Limitless]

ASD, I read one of your posts on page 19 about how you were trying to incorporate playful banter into your first few sentences of every set...of course it was posted september 1st, so Im sure you have a comfortable grasp now.

So...is playful banter just negging with kino? I'm confused...

No, there is a very big difference between negging and banter.

Banter is designed to build attraction and instill sexual escalation.  Its fun, light hearted, and playful.

Neg's are designed for "value checks".  Basically cutting a girl down from her pedestal.  You're conveying that you are unaffected by her beauty and therefore displaying higher value.  Many girls can not handle negs because it will crush their self esteem.  BEWARE..  Seriously..  Girls will HATE you if you use miscalibrated negs.  These are only to be used on girls who need SERIOUS attitude adjustments, or 10's.

[asmokindeal]

Ok, so I kinda got sucked into life and have been working my ass off and haven't really had time to sarge in months.

Im not happy about this at all.  So I am just going to start recording my sarges again and stick to the 4 nights x 12 sets a night format...along with some other exercises peppered in for fun.

So starting tonight I am going to open 12 sets and update my old numbers where i left off.  

My posts probably won't have as much detail as before unless something cool happens.

My main focus will still be building my skill set  for use in tandem hunting with HBDV (yes were still together and she is as cool as ever).

Good news!  It looks like I will be moving into a condo Literally  100 feet from my favorite sargeing spot...Mill Ave.  The Pool is about 50 feet from My favorite bar.  Fuck yeah!

later

[asmokindeal]

I get a call Sunday night from JDog saying that Mystery and Matador were going to be coming out with us tonight.  Being the first time that I have ever met Mystery I was really fucking excited to say the least.  

I just moved into the condo complex adjacent to Mill Ave and now can be at my favorite bar in less than 30 seconds…walking slow.  Not to mention the fact that between my front door and the exit is the swimming pool/hot tub.  This makes for the perfect bounce at the end of the night.  

So HBDV and I head down to the bar and meet up with JDog.  Five minutes later Mystery and Matador come strolling through the door.  It is a very slow night and the place is practically empty….It is a Sunday night.  JDog introduces us all and at this point we have a fairly large group with the 3 other girls that came with JDog and I and the other few girls that came with Mystery and Matador.  

I was pretty drunk the whole night so a lot of the finer details are a little fuzzy so I am just going to relate what sticks out in my mind.  We all hung out for a total of about 4 hours and went to about 5 or 6 venues.

Within the first few minutes of meeting Mystery, I was standing there with him and 2 of the girls with us and he was immediately dropping pebbles/negs to the girls.  It was funny because they really did come off as very casual observations that I barely noticed and didn’t realize that they were negs until a few minutes later.  It was almost like he was just thinking out loud.  They were very subtle, low energy, non needy and you barely noticed he did it.  

The negs that I noticed right off the bat:
“Are you wearing contact or are your eyes always blood shot”
“Were already not getting along”
“You’re little”

Mystery comes off as a very pleasant, non needy, polite Canadian…with a subtle accent.  He is very likeable and I felt comfortable in his presence.  

Within a short while we bounced to another venue and this place had a decent crowd and was fairly loud.  I kept my eye on Mystery and he very casually wandered through the table and found an empty seat and sat down to watch the live musical performance.  He made no attempts to open the many girls that were surrounding him and it was as if he wasn’t even aware of them.  He didn’t acknowledge anybody as he sat down…it was very non-needy and slow.

I look away for a minute at the most to take the drink that someone bought for me and I look back and the 5 girls that were sitting around Mystery were all facing him and one had her hand on this shoulder.  They were all just sitting around laughing and smiling and Mystery was talking away very casually.  

I opened the 2 set over my shoulder and was talking to them while I was trying to watch what Mystery was doing.  It was fun just observing his body language, facial expressions and energy levels.  

We bounce again and again and we end up at the last bar that we all hung out at before last call.  It was slow to medium busy and I opened up a two set with HBDV and within minutes one of the girls was draped over HBDV.  Both girls were pretty cute, we talked for a few minutes, invited them to the hot tub after hours and HBDV number closed.  Last call comes around and we all bounce to a nearby late night sandwich shop.  Everybody leaves but about 5-6 of us including Mystery, his sister, HBDV, Maverick and his friend.

20 minutes later HBDV gets a phone call.  It’s the girls from the last place where HBDV number closed.  They are planning on coming over to the hot tub after hours.  A short while after that the girls show up.  

We all Walk up to my place and get towels.  One of the girls grabs a pair of shorts the other just strips down to her panties and we all head down to the pool.  We are all hanging out and eventually HBDV and one of the girls are making out in the pool topless.  

Unfortunately that is as about as far as it goes.  No real action other than seeing both the girls running around topless.  However HBDV has been talking on the phone and texting the girl in Panties for the last couple of days and she was the hottest one out of the two…she wants to hang out again.

[artisan]

God your life sounds too good to be true... :twisted:

[poelectrix]

This is kind of a depressing story

[AlphaKing]

Me:  I'm all for venue changes and quiet environments too.  Sometimes I am not in state and I have a hard time changing it.  Other times, I'll do great!   I've been able to clothes rub a girls breasts within 1 minute and have her turn around, so I could do it rub them from behind. 

I've noticed that if I am with a group of guys sarging (I hate that term) and I only know 1 person, I feel Beta.  I need to work on being the leader of men (too).   I would feel better, If when I went "went out", I had only one wing, so that I could feel Alpha and play an active part of the decision process in where we venue changed to, where we sat (if at all), etc.

I understand the wingman rules, so there is no problem there.  I'll block an amog, keep an obstacle occupied and things like that.

[asmokindeal]

I made a ton of new year’s resolutions.

My top 4 are…

1.    Stop Drinking alcohol
2.   Lose 50 pounds.
3.   Work out 4 days a week.
4.   Get out of the house 4 nights a week.

•   I haven’t drank any alcohol since December 30th.
•   I’ve lost 5 lbs since the 1st of December
•   I’ve worked out 4 days a week since December 20th.
•   I’ve NOT been going out 4 nights a week.  I am planning to kick that off with a 30 day challenge starting in the next month or so.

Monday night I went on a mountain bike ride.  I felt strong and my endurance is building.  I want to start mountain bike racing again and incorporate that as part of my identity again.  I raced for 6 years when I was going to school.

I feel super committed to my health and getting back in shape.  2010 is going to be my year. 
Game wise…I have slipped quite a bit.  I have more confidence than ever.  My body language is better than ever and I have weeded out a LOT of bad habits that held me back in the past…mostly related to negative thinking patterns. 

As far as “slipped” I haven’t been going out and I feel introverted when I do.  It is mostly because I have slipped into my old ways of being a little introverted and anti-social.  I have to consistently go out to combat this and push it down.  I thrive on momentum and a body at rest stays at rest.  This is easy to remedy but takes time and effort to go out consistently and focus on what I am improving at the time.

Asmokindeal

[poelectrix]

How'd it go this week?

[JDOG]

OMG!! This Journal is so long it's visible by the Hubble Telescope haha..
So that's a good list Rich to work on for starting 2010.. how's it coming along?

[Skip48]

ASD was cool as hell last night! He taught me some invaluable information and helped me conquer a bit of my AA. I still have a LONG way to go! Can't wait to hit the town again with him and sarge with him again.

[asmokindeal]

Holy Fucking Shit!  Its the 4 YEARS anniversary and 70,000 views since I started this journal!  I absolutely am blown away tonight that this much time has passed!

Any NEWBIE that has not committed to the newbie mission (4 days a week X 12 sets a night for at least 6 week, COME HELL OR HIGHT WATER) is CHEATING themselves.

My journal chronicles some of the best times of my LIFE.  During this amazing mission I met some of the best friends I have ever had, lost my virginity and had AMAZING sexual, once in a lifetime (hopefully not) adventures.

Thank you:

HBDV
JDog
Sun Slayer
Limitless
Mojo
Isaac the Natural
Justincreadible
Luxberry
Skynet
Maverick
Mason
Pierce
and recently:
FerrisBueller

Have a great night all.

-Asmokindeal

[JUSTINcredible]

hey hey, i should thank you instead. You helped big time when i first started back in 07.  So kudos to you Rich.  (looks like i returned to the forum justintime lol)