Author: Wayne 'Juggler' Elise
Date: Jan 20, 2007 9:59 PM
Subject: Taking the Social Initiative
Women find men who socialize attractive. There is probably some
sort of natural selection reason for this. Those caveman who
could rally his friends could hunt and fight more effectively so
he passed on his genes. I don't know. I try not to analyze it
too deeply. It's enough to know that socialization is
attractive.
As you are out and about, work on making groups of people more
cohesive. The seduction community where I got my start talks a
lot about how to break groups apart so that you can be alone with
an attractive woman. But not much thought is put into bringing
people together. Too bad, because there is much power to be had
in doing this.
I used to believe that people liked me for being interesting. I
now know that people mostly like me for liking them. I wasted
many years trying to entertain or be cool when all I needed to do
was take the social initiative.
Imagine yourself talking with an attractive woman. Now imagine
her male friend who has been in love with her since eight grade
standing nearby. He sees you talking to the woman of his dreams.
He does not want you to succeed. He thinks you are a typical
dude. He can't stand the thought of his friend hooking up with a
typical dude. So what does he do? He walks over and joins the
two of you. He will talk to her and try to distract her from you
and make you look like a loser.
Now at that point you may engage this guy. "Hey what's your
name? Nice to meet you. How has your day been going?"
All of that nice guy stuff will fail. He will see through you.
You are being nice because he is a friend of the woman you want
to sleep with. He knows you are being disingenuous. The nicer
you are the harder he is on you.
If you are trying to win people over after they are in your face,
it is too late.
The way to win him over is to take the social initiative. Before
he has a chance to come over and mess you up, you walk over to
him and pull him into the conversation with you and her. "Hey, I
noticed you looking this way. Come join us. What's your name? We
were just talking about our pets. What kind of pet do you
have?"
Now he is won over and thinks you are a great guy. Why? Because
you didn't have to bring him in. Talking with him was not a
defensive measure. It was a choice. You chose him to join you.
You are a real, honest good person that he likes. This gives you
social power. You are taking charge (in a friendly way). And
once someone is comfortable following your direction they will
follow it again. That means if you can bring people in, you can
send them out. "Hey, do me a favor. Go flirt with those girls
while I try to get your friend to kiss me." And he will do it.
When you are meeting mixed groups of men and women, talk with the
guys. Spend some time connecting with the guys then ask them who
their girlfriend is within the group. Once reassured that you
won't be hitting on their girl they will actually help you meet
the other women. (Of course you can't be responsible if his
girlfriend hits on you though.)
