Where to Find and Get the Hottest Girls Every Day

[seannewman]

http://makegirlssmile.wordpress.com/2006/11/22/the-gym-your-pickup-workout-plan/

What I’m about to reveal to you may change the way you structure your day entirely, so be prepared to have your mind blown. There is one place, one environment, one setup that is fricking custom made for any kind of confident approach (direct, indirect, opinion, storytelling, situational, etc.) that you’ve probably been missing for years… and I’m about to lose my advantage by sharing, but that’s just me. I’m a giver.

Ready? There is a place to meet healthy, normal, beautiful girls every single day and change your life for the better. Any guesses?

I’ll give you a big hint. It’s not a bar.

The gym.

You cannot find a better setup for creating quick connections with the best possible chance of success. Here’s how I do it.

First, pick a gym that has hotties. Find out when they go. You don’t need to pick the most expensive place (remember, hot single girls do not tend to be rich… they tend to find the gyms with the best classes and nicest stuff that they can afford).

Preferably a slightly off-peak time. You will be doing this for results, not for reps (don’t give yourself a 50 set challenge in the gym). This is all about working efficiently.

Walk in and warm-up by chatting to anyone you see on the way in. Joke with whoever is working the desk. If it’s a girl, flirt your ass off. Get social on your way in. While walking in, use your peripheral vision to scope the cardio machines on your way to the locker room. Be sly and note where the cutest girls are.

Change and come out. Dress appropriately, but a little colorful (and make sure you smell good… good time to use a cheapass scent like Axe). You don’t have to be totally studly, but it helps if you have a little tan, and if your arms are in shape, go sleeveless. Look like you mean business. Walk into cardio room and find an open machine next to a cute girl. If there are none, wander around and do some other workout while waiting. You can lift, stretch, whatever.

Keep your eye on the cardio room. This is all about being opportunistic. When you see a spot open next to a cute girl, stroll up and start your workout there. The next step is critical.

Start the machine (it can be anything… bike, treadmill, whatever) and start a light workout.

Turn to the girl next to you, and lightly tap her arm while you look at her with agentle smile on your face, and motion for her to take her headphones off (she will almost always be wearing headphones, which prevents 99.999999% of the known universe of dudes from talking to her, which is what makes you such a stud for being able to do this).

Now smile. Really smile and look as friendly and normal as you can. One technical note… if she’s running flat out on a treadmill, wait till she slows down. You want to be able to do this when she can converse.

Then go into your opener. It can be anything. I’ve used sincere (you are super-cute), pussified indirect (i’m taking a storytelling class and need some feedback), and in-between. Just make sure you get her attention soon with something interesting. I actually like to be playful, then banter and do some storytelling here, because it gives you something interesting to discuss.

Remember, working out, especially on cardio machines, is deathly, deathly dull. If you can make the time go faster by talking, she’ll love you for it (why do you think women walk and jog in groups when they exercise outside?
socializing alleviates boredom for them).

Tell your story and start vibing. Get real comfortable. Use light kino where possible (a slow handshake when you get her name, light shoulder taps in stories, high fives at high points). Don’t play games. Introduce yourself early. Get her name and use it in conversation. Go real basic with the small talk (where you from? do you live around here now?) and share interesting stories about yourself. If it’s on at all, she will keep talking. Just make it like a chat between friends… you can game, but keep it light and friendly (i.e., don’t spank her ass while she’s trying to jog).

Examples of things I say right at the start, all with big big smiles and making things sound as fun as I can. Serious will get you killed in the gym.

“is this machine taken? cool… but if anyone comes back to claim it, i’m telling ‘em you said i could have it, so you better be prepared to protect me.”

“this thing isn’t hard to use, right? i just want to watch tv and have it look like i’m working out. my god, tell me that’s not sweat, you just dumped water on yourself to look cool, right?”

“do me a favor, watch my stuff for a second? if anyone comes and takes it, run them down and kick ‘em in the shins. use your kickboxing skills to protect me, and you can be my new girlfriend.”

“is this tv set to espn? crap. i gotta find the one with the soap operas, or a telenovela. now that’s some good fricking distraction right there… nothing but hot people hooking up with really badly behaved other hot people… girl, can’t you see he’s a dog?!? Not like me. I’m a perfect gentleman, and would never do things like flirt with a cute girl at the gym.”

Anything, really. There’s a basic structure to opening in the gym. For those of you who have taken Art of Rapport, you may notice that these openers all follow the 1-2-3 structure. You get her attention, then say something that is relevant to what is going on around you, then quickly change gears to playful flirting.

Once you open this way, just start vibing. Here is the practice part. Half the time I go to the gym now, I just get this far… and then slide into some wide rapport.

Try to get in a good 20 minute conversation. If it’s going well, you’ll have good rapport and time will fly by (side benefit… it makes this workout way more fun). When you get to a point where you feel you’ve gotten comfortable and she’s smiling and asking you questions, make your closing pitch. Something like I really have to go and get my real workout in… but I really like talking to you. We should hang out this week. What are you up to Tuesday?

Try to keep your day2 suggestion something very soon so she can try to answer. If she says anything other than an outright rejection, just say, Awesome. Let’s get a drink Tuesday at 7 at (insert standard day2 place here). Give me your number.

Now you can show off a bit. You won’t have your phone with you, and no one will have a pen and paper. So just have her tell you her number, and say “of course I’ll remember. This is destined to be.”

Give her a big smile, and tell her you’ll send her a text later today. Then make your exit and work out for real. You want her to see that you aren’t just there to pickup chicks. If I’m on a treadmill, I like to crank up the incline and speed and start running intervals. Or you can go lift. Pick something basic that you can focus on. And then… well, that’s it.

The cardio approach gives you a captive audience, and once you break the headphone barrier, you have the chance to demonstrate amazing confidence, charisma, and authority. It will be very weird at first, but if you can start doing it, it will change your whole approach to daygame. I now have this planned in my daily workouts, like today I’m doing deadlifts, plyometrics, 20 minutes interval running, and 15 minutes of banter.

Try it out, and let me know your results. If this works, I’m thinking a cross-promotion with 24 is in order…

[Esquire]

I dunno,

this sounds like a good idea.  But I'd like to see a FR/LR of this really working.

Let me get this straight:  You're hitting on girls while you are on a cardio machine, and she's on a cardio machine listening to her Ipod?

It seems to me like it will be really hard to make eye contact and sustain a conversation while you're both on cardio machines.  I've seen people trip on the cardio machines when they're just concentrating on their workouts...

I do, however, agree with you that there are hot girls that go to the gym.  The UofA Rec. Center is a bastion of HB's.

[seannewman]

Dude, it really works. If I were less lazy, I'd post the story of how I spent 20 minutes total over two days bantering and in rapport with a girl while we were on side-by-side cardio machines and turned it into an afternoon hookup while her boyfriend was at work.

It worked for me long before I ever heard of the community. The nice thing about the gym is you are seeing the same people over and over again, so it's not like you have to go for broke.

The key is that when you get on the cardio machine (note, NOT a treadmill if either of you is really running), you make sure you gesture for her to take off her headphones. After that it's just a matter of continuing to banter.

Girls WANT to meet a cool guy at the gym. They do NOT want to meet a cool guy at the bar.

[=SkyNet=]

They do NOT want to meet a cool guy at the bar.

..i think girls just want to meet a cool guy. Doesn't matter where, although in a bar they will resist more.

[*shanghai]

'Sup Sean.
These pickup 101 guys do pull girls off cell phones and ipods. I should know, I have done it. Sean is a wealth of good advice.

Hows it goin' =SkyNet=. Always succinct and to the point.

I think you are both right...let me explain.

Girl are at a bar to meet guys. BUT, my current GF jokingly tells whoever asks, that we met digging for clams on the beach because I "picked her up" in a bar.

She dosen't like to say "We met in a bar", yet we did.

So the fact is bars are great places to meet girls, BUT not the best, if only for the story she will have to tell later.

[freedomfighta]

if the pickup artist is supposed to be the exception to the rule.....your just like every other pavlovian dog trying to spit game laid at the gym.

also, the uofa rec center doesn't let you just pick any machine and start doing cardio, you have to sign up for a time spot.....granted just getting on a cardio machine at the rec, you'll probably be seated next to a gorgeous girl.

[seannewman]

if the pickup artist is supposed to be the exception to the rule.....your just like every other pavlovian dog trying to spit game laid at the gym.

And that's different than every other dog spitting game trying to get laid at the bar how?

Seriously. I dunno about UofA, but at every college and private gym I've ever worked out and worked at, I've never seen a guy who could flirt in a fun, friendly way. I've seen some meatheads walking with the "carrying many suitcases" look ask dumbass questions like "isn't that heavy for you," when girls are trying to get their lift on.

You see only the problems. See the opportunity instead. If every guy there is spitting game, just be friendly. Flirt right away with a smile. Don't try to look cool. Be fun instead.

Try it first. Then you can come back and bitch about it not working. It works for me, and it's not that hard. Do with it what you will.

[Positive]

esquire / freedomfighta - Try it before you knock it. That's all I gotta say.

[Esquire]

Positive -

I have tried gaming girls at the gym!!!  It didn't work for me, okay?

Maybe it works for other guys...  I'm sure it works for other guys... in fact here's a LR from our own board by Smooth about picking up on a girl at the gym:  http://forum.arizonapua.com/viewtopic.php?t=2583

... for me I've just found that that I have a short conversation with a girl at the gym and I'm that "interesting guy at the gym"... nothing more.  I've never been able to make a pick up from a short conversation work.  Even if I get a number after a 5 min. conversation, I don't get a call back.

All of my successful p/u's started with at least an hour long conversation.  Sure... gym's work for some guys... short conversations work for some guys... my game isn't there yet.  Maybe it will be - that's why I'm here, to get better.

I'm not saying, "don't go out and game girls at the gym";  if I came across that way, I apologize.  Picking up girls at the gym takes skill - like picking up girls anywhere else.

Lastly, I wanted to dissent from SeanNewman, to see if he'd give a personal response back - just to make sure he wasn't a bot.  You did Sean, thanks!  I wouldn't be so critical if it was a local guy posting, whom I know.

[Wayout]

I tried this few days ago. I was so out of breath that I coudn't really talk. The girl was on the  mashine like 20 min ahead of me. So when I almost had a heart attack on a stairmaster....she continued to run this thing for another 20 min.

Same kind of shit happens in the gym room where where people lift weights. I work out hard and can't really talk. I was watching the gym for a long time,the girls who go workout are the best and we already have somehting in common. I love them! Many have bf working out with them in the same room and they dont even talk,that's scary. I don't know if I my school is different,but any time a pretty girls walks in,she is beeing approached within 15 min if not soner.
So far I've been making eye contact and smile at every girl. The older women are so happy when I do that and usually start conversation with me. Too bad I don't like them older then 20.
I am still looking for a good opener,somthing that I can use every day. Somehting that will keep me and her talking for the first 5 min. It's gotta be somehting natural and not an obvious pick up line....Any ideas?

[seannewman]

I am still looking for a good opener,somthing that I can use every day. Somehting that will keep me and her talking for the first 5 min. It's gotta be somehting natural and not an obvious pick up line....Any ideas?

Dude, I swear, I use something like the openers I posted up top every time I go to the gym, and they always work. You just have to keep talking after it.

Try this.

"Hey, is this machine taken? No, cool. Cos if it is, and someone comes back looking for it, I'm blaming you. You're gonna have to protect me, cos I'm fragile. I like your laugh. I'm Sean. So what are you up to today?"

You got her attention, got her laughing, now get to know each other.

And just so you know, I am in fact a bot. I'm just a very, very sexy bot. :-)

[Positive]

I am still looking for a good opener,somthing that I can use every day. Somehting that will keep me and her talking for the first 5 min. It's gotta be somehting natural and not an obvious pick up line....Any ideas?

You can't script five minute's worth of dialogue. You could script a 5 minute monologue, but that's boring, and it's not going to help you get anywhere with a girl. What I think you are looking for is basically how to keep a conversation going. And if you're looking for an opener to help you do this, you're looking at the wrong place.

I'd suggest reading Juggler's ebook. It's probably the best resource I've seen on how to carry a conversation without memorizing stuff. His basic idea is to relate to what the other person is saying while at the same time opening new possibilities for convo topics and then making the girl invest in the interaction by getting her to talk more than you.

If it helps, my default opener when nothing else comes to mind is to say "Hi" with a smile, and hopefully something comes to mind by then. If not, I follow up with, "Right about now, I wish I had some cool pickup line memorized so I could come talk to you and not look like a dork. But I don't... So... What's a good pickup line that would work on you?". Deliver it with a big smile, be relaxed and make it obvious you're messing around with her.

PS: Yes, Sean is a bot. He's like one of those fembots from Austin Powers, except that he shoots out wicked banter instead of bullets.

[poelectrix]

Good post positive, I like that Idea for approach, i think I've heard it somewhere but I can't put my finger on it. I really like the directness.

Also, that reminds me that i've been meaning to pick up jugglers book because i've heard a lot of good things about it.

[seannewman]

PickUp 101 and Art of Rapport and Daygame is COMING TO PHX!

Finally. March 23rd. Get your spot now and stop wasting time in clubs with crazy ass drunk girls. Get the hotties where they are every day with no work. Sounds good, right? :-)

http://seannewman.blogspot.com/search/label/Art%20of%20Rapport

[AsianEyes]

My suggestion to people who work out hard when they're at the gym:  talk to her for 20 mins during your warmup before you lift.  I like to train hard....1 min rests max between each set.  However, I warmup on the treadmill first by jogging half a mile to 3/4 of a mile.  This usually takes 5-10 mins.  If I used this routine, I would light jog that half mile or 3/4 of a mile and walk on an incline (alternate) so I could built rapport longer, yet still not over-do it with my warmup.