Should I go out alone?

[ener]

Yesterday I went out unexpectedly. I just felt hungry but at the same time I did not have anything going on for a Friday. Other weekends I've gone to California. When I use to live in Tempe I use to go some weekends to Vegas with the purpose for sarge but I usually ended at the Spirminth Rhino instead. Right now I have a lot more to study and I should be building a social circle since I am not sure how long will I live in Tucson.

But it was interesting because I said OK, let's go. It was like 9. They did not let me in at the bar but talk to some lesbians that were out, one was fat and the other had OK boobs. Then a homeless guy came, anyway I couldn't get enough attention from them. I notice there are a lot of six's in pairs like in their 30's waiting to be picked up or something. I did not see enough.

What was interesting is the fact of going alone, like shit man. That's always been a big deal to me. I remember even when I went to my first boot camp I was scared to go out alone. After I got wings it was a lot easier but Tucson is a small city so I don't know if I'll ever get a wing, and why the hell do I need a wing?. Do I really need a wing? What if I can build the skill all by myself and turnaround my lifestyle?.

Next year I'll be living close to the bar area. But what are the fears that hold me from going out alone?. I'm afraid of what people will think of me... this guy is crazy?. this guy is here to pick up girls?. this guy have no friends?. maybe I gotta find out well it makes me feel good, but fuck what people think of myself.

I don't do as much pickup daygame as I use to do in ASU but I feel better with myself so I should be getting better results today, with all the money I've spend in pickup. What does some PUA's have like sinn or other guys that go out alone, what is the mindset?. if you can have the emotion to go out alone, then you just tweak what you say and it should be alright.

I'm here just for a beer!

[JDOG]

You know honestly I don't like going out alone.. but I have my best nights when I walk into a club with some wings, but then barely see them after that.. I run my best sets alone, and you can really work the room.. and make friends fast.. think 'short set theory'

[Zone]

Force yourself out of your comfort state.  Make new friends.  Going out alone yields better odds.  I can only talk from my experience but when I was single, I would rather go out alone than with friends because I didn't have to worry about a friend not liking a place and wanting to bounce or vice versa (you can come and go to wherever as you please), having to give them rides home if I drove, them not wanting me to leave them (usually the inexperienced friends) having to be dependent on finding them when you feel like a loner in the club, and having the friend be the 3rd wheel if I'm vibing with a chick.

I remember the very first time I decided to go out alone was when I went out with 3 other friends about 6.5 years ago.  I was barely 21 and wanted to have a good time with friends.  We went to a club I didn't like but went because one of my friends ex wifes was there and he wanted to hook up, so he ditched me.  My other friend got sour because the guy with the ex wife ditched us so he just wanted to go home and drink.  I tried to convince the other guy with me to go to a bar with me but he wanted to go home.  He didn't drive so I had to drive his ass all the way to south phoenix half buzzed because he didn't want to go out.  It was just me alone with half a bottle of bacardi.  I was new to going out and I wanted to have a good time.  I was upset I was ditched but was determined to have a good time.  I could have called it a night, wasted my outfit and liquor but decided to get a good buzz and go to club RIO (this was 2004 lol).  Went to RIO and had the time of my life, SOLO.  Danced, got #'s, even got a couple of day2's, and I didn't even have 1/10th of the verbal game I have today.   Went home to my f-buddy that night bragging about my night (I was drunk and 21 and talk a lot anyway).  Ever since that night, I've never been opposed to going out solo.  Friends can sometimes ruin your night.

Logistics are more in your favor when going out alone also.   If you click, you can just bounce with the girl and you'll be forced to open or just stand around like a loner.  You're the alpha male, it's your world.  You don't have to depend on anyone to have a good time.  Don't put too much pressure on yourself to go out with the intent to get laid, just go out and be social, that's why people go out, if someone is acting too cool for school, just move on to the next set.  It is a numbers game anyway.  Be comfortable in your own skin and don't worry about what others think about you.

[influencegenius]

I love going out alone.

I always more success that way anyway

[AnthonyFreedom12]

Going out alone is not a good habit.

[sunslayer]

Yes you should. It's good for the soul. Going out with wings is easier, less scary, and more fun. But going lone wolf once in a while will give you balls of titanium.