Posts Tagged ‘seduction’

To the most part women are the choosers of their mates in our society. Perhaps in the past in a male dominated, and female suppressed environment it was different. Today however, the average woman is the chooser because she has far more sexual power than the average man.

I had a conversation recently with some like minded friends about how a man can remember a split second glance that he caught of a beautiful women, perhaps that he saw over 10 years ago, and never even spoke to. Many of these strong memories are catalogued in our brains. Why? Women don’t experience this, at least not to the same extent as their male counterparts. However, women maintain memories of more specific emotional connections. Whether that be the feelings of being sexually dominated, and her corresponding sexual submission, or a chance encounter and the strangely deep comfort connection she felt with the other person.

I am breaking down some of the finer points of sexual flirtation, when meeting and dating women. I keep things in simple terms, and show several real life interactions with an old girlfriend of mine.

Source: The Seduction Community Archives Author: Tyler Durden

Now when it comes to the idea that “if a girl disrespects me I’ll NEXT her”, that isn’t my frame at all. To me, you can’t NEXT a girl who you haven’t slept with.

I get a phone call from an ex-girlfriend that I’m still close with. We still hook-up, but I value her more as someone who I can talk to now. I think that may change when I stop travelling and I’m around more. For some reason, she’s an anomaly who is very self aware of her tendencies. That is, as opposed to most girls I meet, who only offer useless socially conditioned rhetoric, whenever you ask them about male/female interaction.

Over the course of the conversation, the topic of dating comes up. I ask, “What does it mean when you meet up with a guy, have a great time, maybe even kiss, but then when he calls you don’t go out with him? Like you make up excuses and don’t return his calls.”

She replies, “Well there’s this guy, Chris, who I met the other night. I really liked him. I offered him my number. He called me the other night, and asked me to meet up. I told him ‘You know what, I think I actually will. Let me call you back.’ I really wanted to meet up. For some reason I never did though. The thing is, that I can feel the emotion that I felt when I gave him my number, at the time that we’re talking on the phone. But the second we hang up, poof, it’s gone. Also, I actually have scheduling issues. It’s not like this is someone who I’m already friends with, who I’d give priority to. This is some new person that I barely know. If he happens to catch me at the right time, I’d go out with him. But I won’t take the time or go out of my way to return his calls. I don’t call guys.”

I’m reading this article in Time magazine (“Special Mind & Body Issue“) titled, “The New Science of Happiness.” Some points stood out that I think have a direct application to seduction, and now I’m trying to figure out how best to present it.

First Principle

“There is a lack of correlation between the experiencing self and the remembering self.”

It is interesting that there is conflicting data, or a lack of correlation between what people say generally has brought them happiness, and descriptions of which specific activities bring them happiness.

The striking example being that most women will tell you that their children are their main source of happiness. However, when a study of more specific details of a woman’s activities shows that taking care of their children ranks low as a positive or happiness inducing experience.

In fact the number 1 positive activity for a woman was found to be S-E-X.

I’ve spoken to and listened to Tyler talk at workshops about Buying Temperature. If you have read his posts about it you know how he goes deep into social programming and talks about how women pull themselves out of state through doing things such as going back into logical conversation.

Whether or not the theory is accurate I don’t care because in practice it works. Tyler’s theory is that women are naturally sexual creatures and they instinctually want to mate with alphamales. However, through social programming they feel that if they follow these urges they are a S-L-U-T. Therefore, subconsciously, when they feel their buying temp raising, and feel themselves losing control they will do everything possible to pull themselves out of state. The theory makes sense to me, and I even discuss topics like this with women…. BUT I will state again that really what matters is how effective this is when put into practice.

Reposted from Tyler Durden Archives Researchers have found that males’ testosterone levels are effected even by trivial events such as their favourite sports team winning or losing a game. Our testosterone varies depending on the level of success that we have.

Mystery calls this MOMENTUM.

Our state DRASTICALLY affects our ability to pickup girls.

Source: Seduciton Community Archives Author: Tyler Durden

We don’t only want entrance, but we want it free and we want to be bumped to the front of the line.

Additional material on qualification can be found at Fast Seduction.

There exists many social SUBCOMMUNICATIONS that convey social value.

Taught a few hundred guys by now just from meeting guys through PAIR and in workshops recently, and this is the shit that ups their game instantly with no tactics or anything. I see this shit ALL THE TIME. It’s the BIGGEST and most COMMON problem I see after everyone I’ve met. This is some of the main shit I focus on fixing when I’m in the field.

Almost EVERYONE I met so far screws up this shit, and it totally fucks up their sarges.

If you do this, don’t feel bad. 99% of guys I meet do it to various extents (myself included).

This is the extension of the “10 alpha qualities” post, which was when I was first figuring out what this shit meant. Back then, I was just posting observations. This post contains conclusions, having now thought about it.

ERADICATE this shit, and your game will go up B-I-G-T-I-M-E, more than ANY tactics will help you. This is part of what’s called being a “natural”. Even with nothing else, if you know this stuff you’ll do well socially, and probably get laid. This stuff is the KEY.

This stuff is only for people who play the REAL game, not the INTERNET ARMCHAIR GAME. So guys who don’t actually PLAY can skip this, because there’s not much theory in it – its directly applicable.